I am, have always been and will always be my own valentine (pls note I am married and love my husband dearly).
It is very important to love yourself first. In some cultures, self love isn’t promoted enough. If you dont love yourself unconditionally and unapologetically, no one else will come close!
Loving yourself will set the stage for the standard of love you give and receive and it will most certainly teach people how to love you or at the very least how to respect you. It all starts and ends with self!
Happy Valentine’s Day to YOU!
Xoxo,
MsDdah
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Yesss loving yourself is so important. That sets the stage for showing people how you expect to be treated and if they won’t then you x them out and focus on the people who will treat you the way you deserve. Valentine’s Day is definitely another day to appeal to the consumerism of America but every day should be Valentine’s Day for yourself!
Yesssss girl. You get it and that’s why you’re one of my dearest friends. Xoxo
That is such a great point! Loving and appreciating ourselves is so important. Happy Valentine’s Day!
Thanks Lutomia, I appreciate you stopping by!
Preach girl! So well said!
Thanks lady! Xoxox
Yes! How can you expect someone else to love you if you don’t love yourself? it’s great when you learn to embrace your flaws and love you for who you are.
Yes, love yourself with your flaws and all!
Excellent reminder! Someone wise once said you truly cannot love another without loving yourself first. I think we should tell all of our friends and family that we love them, often.
~Mary
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True. My pastor recently did a series on celebrating our family and loved ones! I’ll always remember that!
I totally agree only if we love ourselves then we can love others. In my mother generation is nothing like that. I sometimes feel sorry for her. I should show your post to my mom and educate her.
Hahaha, it is the same way I feel about my parent’s generation. I will caution you that they may not be as receptive to it as we would. Thanks for your feedback!
I love this and agree with you, self love is important x
I agree, especially with the current millenium’s notion that loving oneself is a sign of being single, nope. I pampered myself yesterday and simply smiled while watching my favorite streams.
I smiled reading your post. There is a sense of satisfaction I get from spending time with myself. Now that I am married, I crave it even more! But yes, I relish my aloneness!
Great words of wisdom. Encouraging and motivating. I think if we all could make ourselves happy and feel loved nothing would phase us.
This is very true!
Agree totally. I’ve just written a post “7 reasons why you’re still single” and I reckon the answer is building your own self confidence and self esteem. If you don’t love yourself why would anyone else?
Exactly!
I agree with you, we should all show more love to ourselves.
I agree 110%! It’s so important to love ourselves first, so that we can be fully “able” to share that love with other people in our lives, like our partners; family; and friends. 🙂
Precisely! On the flip side, if you dont love or accept yourself, thats all you’ll have to share with others.
I couldn’t agree more, I always remember the saying you must love yourself in order to love another. I am single but since my last bad relationship which crushed my confidence and left me less than myself I now take good care of myself and love myself for the things that make me unique. This post will be so inspiring for many t o read 🙂
I am so glad you found it inspiring. Thanks for your feedback!
THIS! It is so important to love yourself, if you can’t love yourself it’s very difficult to love another or have another love you. I’d also add, that it’s important to fall in love with yourself all over again as you move through different seasons in your life. I have found this to be an especially important point for me to try to remember.
I will remember that. Thank you so much for the advice. Xoxo
Yessss I am so with you, if you cannot love yourself then how can you love another. Love ALWAYS wins 🙂
You make a good point. I really believe that you can’t truly love someone else until you love yourself, so self-love is an important part of Valentine’s Day.
I totally agree with you! I don’t think you can find love or be truly happy until you love yourself.
I so agree with you that loving oneself is so important. If you don’t love yourself, you’ll never love the beautiful world around you. Hope you had an amazing Valentine’s Day!
I believe self love is more important than to have the love of another. If you don’t love yourself you can’t love anyone else.
You really cannot and this didnt always make sense to me until recently!
It’s often said you can’t really love someone else until you love yourself and I would have to agree!
I totally agree with you. Self-love is so important. Even if we are single on Valentine’s Day. and I hope that you have a wonderful valentine.
I sure did! Thank you!
Ah I saw your Instagram post about this and found it really interesting. I totally believe in self-care but I think That viewing g yourself as your valentine/ your first- love could take it to a whole new level. Thanks mich x
Thanks for your feedback Michelle! xoxo
Really like the message of self love in this blog. We all defo need to do it more!
Great point! How can we expect other people to truly love who we are unless we love ourselves first? I think it is so important to get to know ourselves and really love who we are inside!
Yes, if you are fortunate enough to discover who you are that is!
Happy Valentine’s Day, my dear! You are 100% on point with this. After all, you can’t give what you don’t have. ☺️💝
Amen to that! We should always love ourselves first. That will ultimately make our relationships better.
I like this, self love has to come first, you have to come first. It can be quite easy to get lost and swept up loving someone else.
I agree with this post so much! I wrote something similar on loving yourself for valentines day a few years ago.something I have been trying to incorporate into my life everyday 🙂
I’m so glad to see so many people talking about self love lately. It really is the most important step to happiness with yourself and others.
Is sure is! Sadly, it just isn’t promoted enough. Yet those that do love themselves are often alienated or condemned for daring to do so. While others think one only finds fulfillment/love in marriage? How? If you don’t know who you are? How can you help or be useful to someone else? Then they breed more generations with this same mindset and it goes on and on and on. Such a sad world we live in.
I agree and with all the comments….how can you expect someone to love you if you don’t love yourself.
I agree, I believe that self love and self care is essential for us to have a fulfilling life and to provide love to people we love. If we are not happy, how can we care for those around us. xo
We should all take time for ourselves. Whether it be pampering, relaxing, etc. Everyone needs time out so that we can show others our love.
We should all practice some self-love. I think Valentine’s Day is too centralized on couples, that we forget ourselves. Especially if you are single. I was very lonely and had a bad Valentine’s Day this year, but I will keep reminding myself to take care of my own needs.
You ought to. In loving yourself as you should the right person will find you and love you as you are!
I absolutely agree. Self-love is always the way to start. If you haven’t accomplished that, you won’t be happy in a relationship either!
I couldn’t agree more! Thanks for your comment!
Super agree on this one, we have to love ourselves indeed! Like for this Valentine’s Day people usually forget to love themselves even if they are single. I’ve heard some of those singles out there that are kind of fustrated because they don’t have a partner to celebrate the Valentine’s day with. But c’mon let’s love ourselves no more fustrations.
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YES! I always say it’s super important to love yourself before anything else. Only good can come from learning to accept and appreciate ourselves
Thanks for your feedback!
You are so right. Something I am finally learning. Being your own valentine is the best.
This is an awesome post! I was my own valentine for many years! You have to love yourself first before you can love anyone else.
You’re right!
I love this message. Self love is very important and it’s nice to focus on ourselves from time to time. It’s something that we should all do.
Or that we need to do more!
It’s definitly important to love yourself, I just wish I could. My self-esteem is absolutely awful at the moment and I’m never able to put myself first.
Ami xxx
I am sorry to hear that. I didnt always put myself first but I grew into it. Just be intentional about it and take steps to get better at putting yourself first. Good luck!
Happy Valentine’s Day to YOU!! hope you had an epic day filled with lotza love and prezzies especially from your admirers 😉
I most certainly did and Thank you!
I agree, it’s a great time to remind yourself that you love yourself too! I always try to do a little something special for myself that day.
I hope you make it a tradition! *wink wink*
I agree with you whole-heartedly! I also think that if people would realise this, then even those who are alone on Valentine’s Day, would feel better – knowing that they are just as precious and unique as those who have a significant other to celebrate with.
Exactly, being with someone doesn’t meant you’re happy plus happiness is relative! lol
So true that we should learn to love our selves before expecting others to love us. Start valentines day by loving your self, I think I need to go and purchase my self a gift to start with. 😀
Atta Girl!
Couldn’t agree more. Self love is so so important and it’s sometninb I’m finally doing. Thanks for sharing.
I am glad you are and I hope you will be unapologetic about it as well!
I agree with you 100% if you don’t love yourself no one will, i am married and love my husband dearly too!!
I appreciate you saying that!
I love the post and I agree with you whole-heartedly!
Loving and appreciating ourselves is so important. Happy Valentine’s Day!
Same to you!
I have to agree with you totally! I am my own Valentine too, I love me, my body, my style and my life. I believe that having a little treat every now and then (especially when you have achieved something) really makes you happy and able to spread that happiness and love around more.
Exactly!
I completely agree. We need to love and care for ourselves before we can love and care for others.
I totally agree with you.. I have always been my own Valentine.
I am with you which makes Valentines Day such an interesting day for me. I think It’s great to be loving and romantic to those who you love. But you should be doing that all year long. If you have to wait for one day to do it, or the one day has to remind you to be, you are missing out. You can be romantic to your love all year long.
Exactly!
I so much agree to you, I personally believe that if you cannot love yourself then you cannot love others. Loving and pampering self is not being selfish, but it is an art of being happy and spread that happiness around!
Loud it girl!
Can’t agree more with you on this! I believe that no one can love or respect me if I don’t love myself. And, it t is equally important to be unapologetic about it.
I couldn’t have said it any better!
I don’t celebrate Valentine’s day with my hubby, but I like the idea of being my own Valentine! It feels empowering!
It most certainly does!
I love this and totally agree!! Happy belated Valentines day to you 🙂 x
Thank you!
I love this!! I do have a husband but the truth is, I don’t need him. Im with him because I want to be! That’s very different!
Love it!
Totally agree with you. Keeping this as a reminder to myself.
Yesssssss!
What a great message not just for Valentine’s Day but for every single day. So true that we should learn to love our selves before expecting others to love us.